Her Purity is His Priority {A Ring & Counting Gifts}

A few years ago, a trusted elder of a church shared with me a vision. He said he saw me as a girl, looking out a window, blurred with black streaks. He brought a message, saying, “The Lord says, you are washed clean.” He did not know what he was telling me, but I did.

Through the dirty streaks, is how I imagined the Lord saw me — dirty and defective. Walking everyday carrying the heaviness of shame. Disgraced by the immorality I practiced before I met my Redeemer. I knew I was forgiven, but did not know how not to feel dirty.

I know now that the commandments of God are given because of His unfailing love for us. He wants us to obey them, so we may walk in the blessings of keeping them. He wants us to keep them to preserve us from the pain, suffering, destruction and death that comes with not.

I carried the shame of not saving myself pure for my husband, well into a decade of my marriage. Before I was 16 years old, I lived life as if there was no God, ignorant of the truth of His unfailing love. I endeavored to fill places in my hallowed, hurting soul with damaging counterfeits of true love. Instead, they left me battered and bruised, and dirty and ashamed.

Sixteen and pregnant, Jesus found me. He reached out in love I never knew, and rescued me. I received new life, my spirit reborn. I held new life, a daughter born. As I grew in God, and learned more truth, my prayers for her became more fervent. My greatest prayer and my most desperate hope, that she would not follow the same godless path that I would. That she would choose to follow Jesus, and her heart would be His, all the days of her life.

I did not want her to know shame, like I had known. I did not want her to carry the weight of the shackles into her marriage bed, causing her to struggle with the pleasure of the gift God reserves for the covenant of marriage, seeing it as anything, but  holy beauty.

As a young single teenage mama of one, just beginning to see the Light, fearfully, I held her close. As a mama of four today, still learning this walk of grace, I hold them ALL close. Yet, today, I have vision, not fear, for the greatness God has planned for each of their lives. I have faith, trusting and knowing of His power and desire to preserve.

The baby girl is growing into a beautiful grace-filled young woman of God, and the time has come to make a promise. Although, her heart already fully committed to following the ways of God, we desired something tangible for her to hold, to wear. Husband and I took her to one of our favorite restaurants. It would be the first time she tasted a meal, almost gourmet. Her first time to have a filet-mignon.

This night was more for them.

309. The father, Father God gave us as a gift — and her.

310. I was there to enjoy the moment and capture it.

311. From his phone, he read to her words he’d chosen for this night.

You are a precious gift, and I am proud of the young woman you’ve become. I wish for you the very best this life God has to offer, and I encourage you to maintain a level of holy character in all your thoughts, actions, and in your attitude. Please take honor in your body and hold tight to your gift of virginity. Don’t take lightly the treasure you bestow, but take joy in that which you will so intimately share with another.

Follow the ways of pure truth, take confidence in your commitment to purity, modesty, and self control. Be patient my dear! Wait! Continually guard your heart. If you struggle and walk the line of self-destruction, take confidence in the POWER of the Holy Spirit who has equipped you with the WILL to stand strong. You are precious! Valuable to God! You ARE worth waiting for! 

312. She beamed.

313. My heart flooding over with gratefulness, knowing because of God’s Redeeming love, I never have to know what-might-have-been.

314. Then we read the Vow of Purity aloud, and she wholeheartedly agreed. {Although, this here link to various more certificates, links to a site where purity rings are sold, we did not purchase ours there.}

315. She signed.

316. He signed.

317. I signed.

Then we gave it to her. She’d been waiting a long time for it. We had to find the perfect one, the one that suited her perfectly. Then we had it engraved with…

~Her purity is His priority~

I am grateful — utterly thankful for…

318. this night.

319. the Lover and Guardian of my soul.

320. no longer having to walk weighted by disgrace.

321. new destinies secured in Christ.

322. a family serving the Lord and following hard after Him.

323. a devoted loving husband and father not afraid to love tenderly.

324. provision to be able to take eldest beauty to a special restaurant,

325. and for the ring.

326. Eldest beauty’s heart that belongs completely to Him

327. no fear in love, because perfect Love casts out all fear. 1 Jn 4:18

328. the One Who is a shield about me… and the lifter of my head. Ps 3:3

329. the One Who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Ps 147:3

330. When I look to Him for help, I will be radiant with joy;

no shadow of shame will darken my face. Ps 34:5


  • http://pathoftreasure.wordpress.com/2012/04/18/the-locusts-2 path of treasure

    Precious! What a wonderful testimony!

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn

      Thank you… and amen! It is because of His goodness towards us… Thanking Him for that.

      Blessings to you…

  • http://youaremygirls.com Jennifer

    Oh, Michele, this is just beautiful. Your daughter’s face, the ring, your husband’s loving participation, the Father’s love and hope! I can see Him smiling with absolute delight. Thank you for sharing this treasure of your heart here.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Thank you… it was a very special night. It was a beautiful realization of His goodness and mercy to us. I stand in awe of it. My daughter will be 18 in June. I simply cannot believe it. She was 2 years old, when I was her age…

      Only God… I give Him glory.

  • http://3dlessons4life.wordpress.com [email protected]

    So beautiful! 🙂

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Thank you 🙂

  • http://findingheaventoday.blogspot.com Jen Ferguson

    This just brought tears to my eyes. My little girls are 6 & 7, but I already fear for their purity, the choices they will make. I’m hiding this story in my heart!

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      God is so faithful to answer, as we pray and ask God to cover our children. We walk by grace in raising them, and then offer them to hold in His able hands. And, we must remain gatekeepers and watchman over their lives… and hearts. Then TRUST… only by His grace…

      Blessings to you… I am so glad to have connected with you 🙂

  • http://redemptionsbeauty.com Shelly Miller

    Beautiful redemptive moment in that dinner with your eldest. The ring is beautiful, your mama’s heart even more lovely.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Thank you! Yes, only by His redeeming love… truly. I cannot imagine what my life would have been without His long-suffering love and endless mercy and grace…

      And you bless me here… with love,


  • http://onesmalltowngirl.com Ashlie

    Oh my goodness, this was just absolutely BEAUTIFUL. thank you, thank you for sharing. I have two little girls, and I pray that we will be able to do this very thing with them when the time comes.

    your words, the pictures, it brought tears to my eyes. your daughter is breathtaking, by the way. and your story….what an amazing testimony to His redemption and goodness!!! He is mighty to save!

    I’ve said it before (sorry if I’m gushing, lol) but you just have a lovely family 🙂

    blessings to you!


    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Thank you! Thank you 🙂

      You are so sweet and kind and truly encouraging! I do thank God for His redeeming love.. without it, my story would tell a whole lot differently.

      Girls are wonderful 🙂 I have 3 and one boy sandwiched between. God bless that boy 🙂

  • http://sixinthehickorysticks.blogspot.com Nacole

    oh! beautiful! *tears* i shared this on my weekly encouraging links in my sidebar–that should be sufficient to say how i feel about this. this is what i hope to give my girls. love you.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Thank you for sharing my link. I don’t know how to do that yet, unless I add a link to my post. But truly… it does mean so very much to me. Thank you dear friend, for stopping by. I think of you everyday… truly.



  • http://kaiyaslaughterheals.blogspot.com/ Court

    Thank you so much for sharing this. So profound about the vision too. I once received a word from someone that took me years to understand but once I did it freed me up to do more ministry. Would that we would all prophesy!

  • http://www.heavenlyglimpses.blogspot.com [email protected]

    This is so beautiful and touching. What a beautiful story of redemption! I would love something like this for my daughters one day. Thank you so much for sharing this experience!

  • http://pursuingheart.blogspot.com Cherry

    This was so beautiful to read – and all because of His grace, mercy, forgiveness, and endless love. A clear example of how God can take our messed up lives and use everything for good, and for His glory.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Yes and thank you! I am so grateful that God is able to take what the enemy meant for harm and turn it for good. He is faithful and He is good and His redeeming, healing power is real.

      Thank you for stopping by here 🙂

  • http://gg-notesonthejourney.blogspot.com Glenda Childers

    I love your intentional parenting.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Thank you for the encouragement. I do desire to practice purposeful parenting.

  • http://www.positivelyalene.com Positively Alene

    Oh girl – I am bawling! First I remember well those feelings of dirtiness, shame, and unworthiness. My heart still cries for those feelings when others share their journey’s with me. One of the reason I wrote my first Bible study – Dirty Laundry Secrets. Also, how precious to love your girls that much – to make her feel so special and adored. I remember the special things we did for our girls and how much it meant to them. Special memories that you and her will never forget. Blessings sweet friend. You bless me always.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      I too, want to share the truth with those who do not yet know His healing, delivering power and are downtrodden with shame. Thank you for your grace-filled words. They truly empower me. I wonder sometimes about moving forward and this whole writing bit. I guess we all sort of do, at times.

      But encouragement like yours truly helps me walk — looking forward — trusting God. Thank you, truly.

      With lots of love your way,


  • http://www.outofmyallegedmind.com/ Nancy Franson

    May your lovely gift to your daughter remind her to cling to Jesus and His grace. Blessings.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Yes! Amen! Thank you for stopping by and leaving a blessing…

  • http://myjourneytoauthenticity.com Meredith

    What a beautiful, beautiful night.
    Thank you for sharing your story, and for sharing the story of you and your husband raising your daughter to honor and glorify Him.

    Thank you so much. I will remember this for a very long time.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Yes, it was a very beautiful, blessed night. I thank God for that 🙂 I was almost unable to go. Thank you for encouraging me, here. It means so much.

      Blessings to you…


  • http://livedwell.blogspot.com Stacy

    How beautiful and special! I am so glad you have this with your precious daughter.

    My heart breaks because my daughter has chosen a very different path. I pray she will one day return to the God she once knew and know that all she needs lies with Him.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Thank you for rejoicing with me… and I am praying and agreeing with you now, that she will hear the voice of her Savior and make her heart His…

      Thank you for stopping by and sharing your tender-heart…

  • gina

    I am so glad you were able to go….isn’t it amazing how things worked out that day after all??…am so proud of our Sarai and her momma…your life, past and experiences has given you a lens perspective that no book ever could…you have not hidden your scars by dressing them up in something you’re not…your life is an open book that will touch and impact many, many lives…Sarai is not only our special gift, she is Son-kissed….I am so looking forward to what God will do in and w/her beautiful life…

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Yes… I am so glad that it worked out that I could be there. Thank you for babysitting 🙂 Thank you for encouraging me in my openness. I am grateful for those that receive it and turn their hearts to Him through it. But there are still so many who don’t understand.

      I just pray God will use my life for His glory and that many will turn to Him…

      Love you and thank you for cheering me on… always!

  • http://www.laurarath.blogspot.com Laura Rath

    What a beautiful, beautiful story! I have a young daughter and had tears in my eyes as I read and thought of her. Thank you for sharing!
    In Christ,
    (stopped over from A Holy Experience)

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Thank you for your tender words… thank you for stopping by 🙂 I have 3 girls, and I am grateful they have a wonderful father to love them and help them grow up secure. Our children are blessed with a godly heritage. Thanking Him for that 🙂

  • http://alwaysalleluia.com Kris

    Beautiful, BEAUTIFUL! What a treasured memory made here, what a gift for your whole family, including your future son-in-law. This was just amazing. *tears*

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Thank you 🙂 Yes! This is a gift for our whole family… and family to come 🙂 My eldest-beauty has 2 sisters growing up behind her, and I thank God for her example.

      Blessings to you… with lots of love,


  • http://www.toshowthemjesus.com Christina

    What a beautiful moment for the three of you to treasure! Praise Him for His faithfulness! So thankful that His grace is greater than all our sins. Blessings to you!

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Yes! Praise God for His goodness to us. He is faithful every time! Only God could take ashes and make it beauty.

      Thank you for stopping on by and sharing wonderful thoughts here 🙂

  • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

    I am moved to tears. What a beautiful moment for you all. And the ring is beautiful! I love the way you took her out and how you presented the ring to her.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      Thank you. Yes, it was a beautiful precious moment I almost missed because of babysitting… but God worked it out that I could go and I am so very blessed I did…

  • r.elliott

    Michele…oh my friend…this is just beautiful. And yes how wonderful that our children can walk a different path than us…one that is given to the lover of their soul. I think you shine bright…a beacon to your daughter…one that says…here He is…come follow. The ring is lovely and blessings to you and your daughter as you travel this road together.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      What the enemy meant for harm God turned for good… and I give Him all the glory for that! Your words go to a deep place in my heart. I have known Jesus, as long as I have known my daughter, and I have lived with her salvation in mind every step of the way. Now, of course, with my other 3 as well. Their hearts are worth standing for — fighting for.

      Thank you for all of your precious kind words… with love,


  • Lisa Cook

    Simply beautiful.
    The ring… beautiful. The words of “husband”… beautiful.
    Her face … priceless!
    This life you share with us …. utterly covered in His grace and beautifully written to show forth the measure of His forgiveness and the only reason He lived and died…. LOVE.
    Your life is everything beautiful. What a great exchange we are afforded through the grace only He can provide. Thanks for sharing this precious, intimate moment. i love you.

    • http://www.alifesurrendered.com Michele-Lyn


      I know you probably get tired of me saying thank you for encouraging me… but I mean it every time I say it… with all my heart. I receive your words as if I have never heard them before, and they are a most precious gift every time. None of them go waisted.

      Thank you for believing in me! I love you…