Mamas can dream… [Dream Again Day 24]

Motherhood is work fit for the Kingdom.

The work you do as a mama IS work worthy of the Kingdom of God.

Mama, your labor is important to God’s plan for the earth.

Motherhood doesn’t steal your dreams, it refines them and then enlarges them.

I want to make sure you know that. For many years — about 15 of them — I believed the falsehood that my labor as a mama was wasted work in God’s eyes.

I wrestled long and hard with an ungodly belief that my labor as a mama had no significance. I’m not sure the Church has done well to validate our role in God’s Kingdom. Mamas, I’m sorry for that. I sense it’s getting better — God’s getting His message to His people.

In the past, however, I’d sit under preachers and feel the pressure to “Just do something.” And by something, it meant ministry outside the home because home wasn’t considered ministry. And the burden can be worse for working mamas. I’d sense the judgement pressing down on me and those words crippled me. I’d silently scream back, “I want to do something. I desperately want to!” But my heart was arrested in the custody of a Holy God, and He wasn’t done with it yet. It’s wasn’t time. My work was at home.

I knew this, yet, I spent years looking out the window for something better, past the beautiful eyes of innocence staring back at me. And missing it — missing the joys of motherhood. Weighted down by my own oppressive feelings of worthlessness and uselessness for the Kingdom, I didn’t know the truth of my value as a mama. And I didn’t understand.

I offered myself wholly to God, praying He would use me to bring His message to the ends of it. “Lord, here I am. Send me.” I wanted to answer His call. Yet, no call ever came. Not even a call to teach a Bible study. Just a call to teach my children.

Though many of those years I shook my fist at God and questioned, “Why? Why would you break my heart so deeply for the nations, and I hardly ever leave my house?” His Word was like fire in my heart, and I longed to teach it but felt mute. I pleaded with Him to take this burden from me.

I needed what I was doing to matter.

And it wasn’t that it didn’t.

It was that I didn’t know it did.

Over the years God broke-up fallow ground in my heart and planted new dream-seeds. Not to replace the others, but to work with them. God would unite the call of being a mama and world changer into a tapestry of destiny as only the Master Designer could. My call to home, and my heart for the world could be one, as I dreamed of raising world changers.

God did a work down deep in my heart to anchor my soul and establish me in my first calling, as wife and mama. He ignited in me a passion to stand on my knees for my family in the face of the enemy, and against the darkness in this world. To stand as a gatekeeper to my children’s hearts, and a watchmen over their lives, laying down my life in the fight for my family.

God ignited a passion in me to raise kids, not to serve the world, but to change it. To help ignite passion in them, and the flame the enemy battles relentless to extinguish. It’s our destiny in God the devil fears. The truth of it is, mama, you are the devil’s target. He dreads Godly children being raised knowing their identity and purpose in God — knowing the inheritance that is theirs as a child of God. The devil attacks the heart of the family because he doesn’t want generations raised with Godly heritages.

The devil is a liar. The very thing he tried to use to undo me, is the thing that God has used to make me. And no one can take my passion for motherhood now.

Children are God’s best gift!
The fruit of the womb, His generous legacy.
Like a warrior’s fistful of arrows
are the children of a vigorous youth.
Oh, how blessed are you parents,
with your quivers full of children!
Your enemies don’t stand a chance against you;
you’ll sweep them right off your doorstep.

Psalm 127:3-5 The Message

Mamas,

The dream God has for us, is not to take away from our season in child-raising. What God has for us, is tailor-made for us. The work He gives us to do, we can do without sacrificing our children. This, I believe with all my heart. Lean into the season you are in. Enjoy the blessings that you find in it, because no other season will provide those same ones.

Don’t let the enemy lie to you and make you think the work you are doing at home is not fit for the Kingdom. You are on the front lines raising those babies. I know the struggles, but God is going to use them, and is already using them to refine you, mold and shape you into the woman He created you to be. I am not sure I can say it gets easier, but I can say “you overcome.”

What you are going through may make you feel weak now, but it will be the thing that makes you strong later. The constant seemingly mundane tasks of taking care of the household can make you feel like you are in a prison. It did, and still does, at times, for me,. Yet, through it, God is helping us to number our days, to understand how to spend our time and energy. I am learning more and more everyday to let go of the external uncleanliness, and focus on the purity of our hearts and relationships.

This season, it won’t last long, or maybe it will seem like it will. The transformation that will take place will be invaluable to you. You will not have been able to get it anywhere, or anyway else. In this season you will gain wisdom, knowledge and strength to share with others mamas and bring them hope.

When our children need us more, and it seems we cannot do anything else, it does not mean you are being used by God any less. You are serving God, and furthering His Kingdom by raising Godly seed, and leaving a Godly heritage on this earth. You have so many incredible strengths and gifts that will be honed as you raise your children, and as you offer them your talents, I believe God will multiply them, and use them in the earth.

While you are in this season, where, perhaps, your dream seeds are dormant — and every seed needs that time in order to grow — God is still working deeply and gently within to prepare you for that work He has. Dream. Dream about those future plans. Dream about the dreams God has for your children. Dream about how He is going to use you to raise world changers. Dream about your children taking their place, rising up and letting their lights shine.

Be encouraged. And dream as a mama. And dream as a daughter of God! He’s got a dream for you, too, mama!

My dream and passion now, is to help you too!

by grace and with love,


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  • Nina

    THank you, this was so timely for me!

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  • http://lholmes79.wordpress.com Lauren Holmes

    Awesome post! Are you a member of MOPS? I hope so b/c it’s an awesome group that teaches us mama’s just how valuable we are. 🙂 I love the pictures on your blog too. Blessinsg! Lauren, lholmes79.wordpress.com

  • http://www.growinginhisglory.com Keri @ Growing in His Glory

    Oh, how true this post is! I feel like you did: always wondering what God wants me to do, never content with being JUST a mom and wife. And yet He gave me these kids, this family, for a special purpose, and our responsibility is HUGE. How can I NOT see that? Because the world–the church even–has bought into Satan’s lie that we women need to do more, be more.

    Thanks for this post. It has opened my eyes a little more and sparked some ideas. I’m sharing it on Facebook.

    Blessings to you,
    Keri

  • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com Barbie

    As a full-time working mama, I’ve never been privileged enough to cry out to God to allow Him to let me do something. When my first two were growing up, I had no desire to be home. I was ignorant of that calling. Today, as I still work full-time and struggle to homeschool one, I wrestle with the desire to be home, to spend more time with my pre-teen and little man.

  • http://hisnlovingembrace.wordpress.com Mia

    Hi Michele-Lyn
    It breaks my heart that you also had to go through this ordeal! Paying you a visit from Barbie’s caught me off guard for I didn’t think I would met another that was told so many lies about motherhood from a pulpit. That is what I call spiritual abuse! I am so proud of the way He uses you to bring truth to many who might be in the same situation!
    Bless you, dear one XX
    Mia

  • http://abidingloveaboundinggrace.blogspot.com/ ~Karrilee~

    I love this post… we were just discussing this very thing in my small group last week and how if we could grasp the true important of what we do as Mama’s – we would stand taller… I LOVE your heart and how God has showed you the power of your Call! (I also LOVE that verse you referenced in Hosea about breaking up the fallow ground! Oh how we need that!)

  • http://dovechronicles.blogspot.com Lisa

    This was a comfort to read but also hard and scary. The enemy knows exactly how to ensnare me on this topic. “They aren’t your kids,” he says. “You’re not really a mother. You are nobody’s mother and you will always be nobody’s mother.”
    How do you preach God’s Truth to stepmothers? I get people telling me left and right how they are not my own flesh and blood. And sometimes I get angry that I have fallen in love with them in these past four and a half years. Sometimes I rail and wail at God, “why did You make it so we can’t have our own baby?”
    But God’s Truth is still the Truth. Didn’t He hand-pick Joseph, stepfather of Jesus?
    So I read what you have written here over and over because while this touches upon the enemy’s biggest and worst lies in my life, I know it speaks to God’s calling for me in the deepest sense.
    Thank you so much for writing this.

  • http://www.arock4him.blogspot.com Amy Hunt

    All that I learn about Him and His heart is amazing, as I mother and fumble and flail and … Hold my breath. He tells me over and over again that He’s got this — my son and my role, and that nothing is wasted including my dreams.

    Rich blessings, friend, as He leads you closer to His truth about you.

  • http://simplystriving.wordpress.com/ Nikki

    God’s been working on me lately as I shed society’s view of me and replace it with His vision. You’re helping Him do that, friend.

    When all is said and done, all that matters is Kingdom work. And there’s a reason He appointed me wife and mama over this household. I’m honored, really. and am determined to make Him proud…

    thank you, friend. thank you.<3

  • http://graceglimmers.wordpress.com/ Jennifer

    Thank you for your post. As a stay at home mom I feel you…I really do. I have asked myself the same questions…that mom guilt is awful. The world presses in on us for “more”…like we should be the super moms (like my mom was)…work full time, take care of the kids, husband, etc. He LOVES that we serve our families, and it is places like your blog that reassure my tender heart that we are doing a high calling…MOM. My 6 year old even said the other day when we were talking about careers…dad majored in computer…”you majored in “MOM” right?” So sweet…yes, yes, I guess I did. For now my degree can hang on the wall, and my MOM hat is enough.