Toddler Baby Girl was struggling and frustrated and complaining. I could hear her over the sound of the water running in the sink where I was washing dishes. “What’s wrong, baby?” I inquired as I dried my hands and made my way over to see her. She had one of those toys. You know, the one that you have to find the right shape to fit in the right hole.
I saw right away the source of her exasperation. It was the wrong shape for the wrong toy. We have two of them. How confusing can that be for a toddler?
“Let mama help you. You don’t have to do it alone. Just ask if you need help.”
Once she had the right toy, it didn’t take her long to find the correct hole her piece belonged in.
And though this moment was brief and the problem was easily resolved, it opened my eyes to a see a vital necessity in life.
We don’t have to do it alone.
We don’t have to be afraid to ask for help.
You know that round peg in a square hole, thing? Yeah, I felt like that most of my life. And so I did life without wanting to be part of any group where someone might actually see me as I really was; imperfect, messy, still learning to walk by grace, and still can’t figure out how to get dinner on the table every night. Mamas who do — they have super powers!
The problem with trying to do it alone, is that you’re alone. I spent those years struggling, frustrated and complaining. And none of the aforementioned bring joy or hope in life. I promise. God has a better way.
“He makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.” (Ephesians 4:16 NTL)
“Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other. In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well.” (Romans 12:4 NLT)
We each have our own special work to help the other parts of the Body of Christ grow, yet we are one and we belong to each other. No wonder I struggled for so many years, alone. I am learning how to ask for help. I’m accepting I need people, and loving it. God created us to be inter-dependent, and that doesn’t make us weak, it makes us healthy and strong.
I have true friends, real supporters, enthusiastic cheerleaders in my life, online and off.
Like the one I sat with in a Publix parking lot for an hour that felt like mere minutes, sharing dreams and God’s handiwork in our lives — while nursing a newborn, too. Like the one I sit with at Panera, not nearly often enough, and share testimonies of God’s goodness, plan women’s meetings, and talk about how our children are revealing the mess in us. Like the one I spent a week’s vacation with, and it just wasn’t long enough, though we laughed long, shared our hopes for the future, and struggles of leaving the past behind. Or like the one who has vowed his whole life to me, who desires to see me become all that God has created me to be, and lays hands on my head and prays blessings before he leaves for work.
My friends, they know my ugly and love me anyway, and I couldn’t live-out my dreams without them.
Then, since I’ve started blogging, I’ve discovered that online friends can be real-life friends, too. Friends, like Kris, who saved me a seat at almost every meal at my first blogging conference. And she’s been a prayerful, faithful, encourager friend through this blogging journey. Her words continue to work on my soul to help me be a better mama and lover of Jesus. She also is fulfilling a dream of hers, and courageously releasing her first book, Holey, Wholly, Holy.
And Crystal, who writes and lives authentic and true. I had the privilege of meeting her face-to-face, and my heart connected with hers immediately. She’s got one of those spirits that are giant in God, but she doesn’t know it yet. There is a depth to her soul, that is quiet, yet fierce. And I can always count on her genuine, heartfelt encouragement and prayers.
And I am not doing this alone — this dreaming again — this dreaming big-God dreams. We are all dreaming together, supporting and encouraging and praying for one another. And you could call us a team — dream team.
And this is what I believe a dream team is; at least one other person who believes in you, who believes you can do it, who believes you can fulfill your dream, who believes you can fulfill your God given purpose in this life, who believes you can get.through.the.day. Even when you don’t believe it yourself.
And I believe God designed us that way — to need each other. And it’s alright to ask for help. Do you have at least one person who believes in you even when you don’t believe in yourself? If you don’t think you do, I bet God already has someone in mind. I pray with you that you find them. If you someone comes to your heart and mind, would you consider asking for help? I love that God made sure these words made it into the Bible; “it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.”
P.S. I slipped this post in with the 31 Days to Dream Again Series because I am part of Holley Gerth’s Dream Team. Nevertheless, I thought it was a good fit, and I love this quote from a guest on her blog today. I hope you do, too.
“We were never meant to be lone-dreamers. You need a God-sized posse, a small gang, and someone to dream crazy dreams with. We were never meant to walk this journey alone. When we lock hearts with one another and dream God-dreams we are a force to be reckoned with!” — Jennifer Watson
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